This is one of the best tips I have, especially because drunk texting can ruin pretty much everything and anything. If there's someone you REALLY shouldn't text when you're drunk (ex boyfriend, a guy who was a jerk to you, even a best friend who you're in a fight with, YOUR MOM) follow these steps.
1. Write down their number on a piece of paper before you go out
2. Delete the number from your phone
3. Leave the paper in your dorm room when you head out for the night
4. Give any friends who have the number explicit instructions not to give it to you no matter how hard you beg - seriously.
This way, you still have the number for when you're sober and thinking rationally but you can't do some serious drunken damage. This has saved me so many times, can't recommend it enough.
If you took all the batteries from Best Buy, a field of solar panels, and the lightning from nor'easter storms and combined them, then you would understand how charged with sex almost every college campus is. There are soo many components of college sex to talk about. But, for right now I'm going to keep it to a few of the basics: birth control, when to have sex for the first time with a new guy, and how to keep yourself happy in such an extreme sex/hookup culture.
While we all want Noah Calhoun to write us 365 letters and passionately kiss us in the rain, after about about 2 seconds and 1 douchebag in college you realize that's just not going to happen. For example, this year I had a guy take me on a "date" where he "forgot" enough money to pay for my ice cream and later peed in front of me on a tree in the park. Uhh...no. (Football player - obviously). That being said, when beginning something romantic with a guy it's important to keep some standards within the casual college setting. This, along with realistic expectations, will keep you happy and still feeling special while getting to know a potential bf.
You're Beyoncé. You're sitting at the bar and all of the sudden Jay-Z seems to pop out of no where and has you laughing and impressing you the whole conversation. Plus, you found out he's a multi-platinum recording artist too! Such a small world! You're totally obsessed and can't wait to talk to him again.
Problem:
Despite your accomplishments and good looks, he doesn't text you -__- ... Jay-Z obviously doesn't know he just met the most beautiful woman in the world, or hasn't realized it yet.
Solution:
When you meet a guy and get the feeling there could definitely be something there, but he doesn't text you right away, always follow (what I like to call) the "two-day rule." While there's no reason a girl can't text the guy, you should give him some time to. But, if he doesn't text you and you absolutely can't wait to speak to him and are DYING to hear from him, wait two days, see if you still feel the same way, and then reach out to him with something fun on the third day. You could text him with a reference to an inside joke from that night or a funny coincidence related to something you talked about.
For example, if you met him on Saturday, don't text until Tuesday (afternoon or evening, preferably). Sometimes they just need a little nudge and confidence you felt the same way (without seeming obsessed).
Embrace your inner Sasha Fierce and give it a shot!
Mission impossible: balancing you and your boyfriends' busy schedules. In any given day you could have classes, lunch & dinner plans, a performance, a sports game, work, a meeting, a hair appointment, or any combination of these. The problem is - your boyfriend does too.
I'm just gonna say it. If it seems like he’s not that into
it, he’s not. Girls have this habit of making up any and every
excuse possible to explain why he didn’t text back or why he’s not asking to get lunch this week. If he’s not acting like he’s into you then he just does not have
strong feelings. He might just be oblivious and a more relaxed with girls,
but if he’s not making you feel wanted or is really unreliable with making plans then you don’t want him
anyway. THE GOOD NEWS is that the sooner you recognize this rather than
rationalizing his behavior, the sooner it becomes no big deal and you can move
on to the next :)
As much as I support being yourself in a relationship, sometimes ya gotta get crafty. Especially at the beginning when you begin to text someone you have feelings for. Here are some general guidelines for your first few conversations (conversations to just talk, i.e. "I'm texting Jordan right now," not to meet up, etc. where you might need to be more direct and responsive). Keep these tips in mind and you'll come off as a confident, funny, nice girl to hang out with without seeming like you're trying too hard.
In the college dating world there are no rules. As an in-between stage between high school flings and the formality of the “real” world, it’s easy to get frustrated and lost in your romantic life at school. That’s where I come in. With my best friends and sorority behind me, I’ll try to help make sense of this crazy time with inspiration from past and present experiences in the hookup scene and long-term relationships.
What's the "morning after" protocol?
How do I avoid fighting with my boyfriend while drunk?
Does it mean something that I never go on dates?
I’ll tackle these questions and more :) If you have
a specific question please comment and I’ll respond as soon as possible!
1. Write down their number on a piece of paper before you go out
