While we all want Noah Calhoun to write us 365 letters and passionately kiss us in the rain, after about about 2 seconds and 1 douchebag in college you realize that's just not going to happen. For example, this year I had a guy take me on a "date" where he "forgot" enough money to pay for my ice cream and later peed in front of me on a tree in the park. Uhh...no. (Football player - obviously). That being said, when beginning something romantic with a guy it's important to keep some standards within the casual college setting. This, along with realistic expectations, will keep you happy and still feeling special while getting to know a potential bf.
You SHOULD NOT expect a guy in college to buy you flowers, take you to fancy restaurants, or display particularly apt displays of affection. He might not take you out at all! That's fine though, this is college. Not only is their budget small, but their capacity to understand and value intimate relationships is not really developed yet.
You SHOULD still expect him to be reliable when meeting up, compliment you occasionally, ask you questions about yourself, and take the interaction seriously.
Give guys some slack but recognize and acknowledge if they aren't mature, don't rationalize it until you have an image in their head that's so far from reality you set yourself up to get hurt. But also give them some room to grow and get better! If you think you have enough going for you two, then keep trying to teach him how to be your man as long as it makes you happy.
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