Busy busy boyfriends

Mission impossible: balancing you and your boyfriends' busy schedules. In any given day you could have classes, lunch & dinner plans, a performance, a sports game, work, a meeting, a hair appointment, or any combination of these. The problem is - your boyfriend does too. 




First and foremost, you have to accept that sometimes in college there are busier periods than others during the semester.  As a couple you should be comfortable “exchanging” busy periods and supporting one another through it.  Just make a special effort to come together at the end of these periods without resenting one another and keep working on your relationship. 

But, if your boyfriend starts to throw out the "I'm busy" excuse just a liiiitle too much for your taste, you might want to examine your relationship a little more.  

1. Don't be paranoid, he may actually be extremely busy.  He should communicate this to you before he keeps blowing you off, and you should let him know (respectfully and not crazy-girlfriend-style) that that's the level of communication you expect. 

2. He also could have bad time management, which may or may not get better over the course of the relationship.

3. There may be something about the relationship that he's unhappy about, even if it's the littlest thing.  Work is a great way to avoid problems.  Don't freak out, but ask him openly and honestly if everything is OK. If he says "no" and seems sincere then leave it at that and give him the benefit of the doubt.  If he says "no" and continues to tell you he's busy at times that don't make sense or acts cold towards you, plan a night where you can bond and have good conversation, such as over dinner or a movie night.  Plan this in advance and set a date/time that works for sure.  Hopefully you can work on things then. One solution could be creating traditions and weekly engagements that you both can commit too.  Maybe you go to a movie on Thursday nights, have a sleepover on Sundays, study in your own "spot," promise to go to each others' performances and events, etc.

Good luck! You'll figure it out :)